Laugh with him - This is important. He's gonna tell some really crappy jokes from time to time, and so are you. But you know what? A bunch of them will be inappropriately hilarious. Instead of getting offended all of the time, (and yes, there are times when it's okay to be offended) if it's funny, LAUGH AT IT.
Have awesome sex - I realize this isn't a possibility for everyone. And no, having awesome sex isn't a REQUIREMENT. BUT, no one can refute that a healthy sex life makes most couples happier. And even if it's not awesome, enjoy how close it makes the two of you, the intimacy! I'm not saying that you have to HAVE to have sex. I'm not saying you're a terrible wife if you're not. I say this, because this was one of the complaints, though frankly, I wouldn't want a mate I wouldn't want to...erm...mate.
Rejoice in his touch - THIS ONE. It got a LOT of hate. Because apparently there are many women in marriages that don't want to be touched by their husband. I get that, but, honestly? Your marriage isn't a happy one most likely, and I can't help fix an already unhappy marriage. But this is up here, partly because it must be HELL being with someone you used to love, who you can't stand touching you. There's no comfort in a hug from your mate, a kiss on the back of the neck as they walk past you, no surprise hugs. I couldn't stand a relationship where I wasn't touched, just as I couldn't stand a relationship where no one is touching me. It's comfort. It's human nature. We need it, we need that specific type of closeness, many of us. And the other scenario is that you just don't like being touched period. In which case, I understand that, but come on. You're still seeking out hugs from time to time.
Keep the flaws he loves - They'll make him smile, and make you all the more endearing to him, unless they are habits that make you angry.
Lose habits you hate - Being mad at yourself all the time is not good. If you're just going to be annoyed that you had that cigarette, why have it? I mean besides the cravings. So you're going to go through withdrawal. Shut up and deal with it, for him. How many times has he shut up and put up with you when you didn't deserve it? The same thing goes for laziness, and....erm...You guys think of some other habits.
Love him - Because you should. Don't force yourself into a marriage just for money. At least fall in love with the guy. He deserves it as much as you do, and no one likes to be used. Conversely, don't turn on him for the things he cannot control. You love him because he is himself, not because he has control of the entire universe (unless he does, in which case could I borrow him for a few years?).
Be loyal - Like I said, we're going for a good marriage here. Ideally, you should stick to your bloody arrangement. Got a triad? Cool, good luck, and I am not being sarcastic. One of you sees a pro-domme, and the other sees a prostitute? Whatever they are, it doesn't matter. Not sticking to this is one of the fastest way to lose your mate's trust. If something's not working, talk about it. Rework your arrangement. DON'T stay miserable.
Stay smart - The opposite of this used to be common advice, actually. I always hated it. The old vintage magazines say at best you should keep yourself educated about world affairs to provide interesting conversation, but feh. I spend more than 10 hours a day sharpening various aspects of my mind, learning about anywhere from 10-500 topics a day. While this amount of information consumption isn't necessary (is it even healthy?) for most people, the fact remains that I can have a lengthy, enjoyable conversation with most anyone with regards to a topic I find interesting. And sometimes Master's surprised with what I know, which makes me proud, and I hope it makes him feel the same way. And -knowing- that you know these things? A nice boost in self-esteem when you can't think of anything else.
Love his flaws - I do not mean ignore alcoholism, tolerate abuse, or anything of that ilk. I mean that there are going to be some things that he does that will NEVER change. You might as well figure out what these are early and figure out your workaround. Him and dishes together make me go apeshit. But feh. I just (occasionally) clean up a few of his. I'm not going to do all of them unless he tells me to, but I don't mind easing his burden some, and it makes me happy to do so. And some of those flaws will be endearing. Like him locking himself out three times in one day because he can't remember his keys. Hilarious, right?
Love his voice - Part of this is, believe it or not, biological. If you're biologically compatible, you should love his. If it's a deep voice, you should love it even more when you're ovulating. A voice you love will be more likely to persuade you AND turn you on. Science aside, do you reaallly want to wake up to someone whose voice grates against your soul?
Know how to make sure things get done - Something that isn't emphasized enough in kids while they're growing up is that if they don't do something, no one else will. See that dish in the sink that's been there for a week? Know how you've been reminding him and it hasn't happened? Suck it up and do the fucking dish. Because he's already thought about it several times and made the conscious decision not to do so. And so have you. You have walked past that dish at least twenty times without doing it. Is that really worth the sense of entitlement?
Be gross sometimes - It makes boys giggle. Laughter is good. Some of my favorite moments with friends have been with a container of eggdrop soup, a beer, and belches that sounded as though they came from a dragon.
Don't lie - :|
Praise! - Everyone needs this. Girls need it tonnes, and I am sure boys need it just as much. I am genuinely elated when he does something without asking, especially if it makes my life easier. He doesn't skimp on the praise when I deserve it, and neither does he.
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